For the Big Day - For the Marriage

June 28th 2010 16:20

It's normal to feel the wedding jitters as the big day approaches. Suddenly you feel like you're running out of time for the things you want to do while you're not tied down by someone else. Suddenly you feel suffocated. You begin to wonder, "Am I really ready for this? Can I honestly commit to just one person? I want to do so many things on my own!"

First things first: don't cancel the wedding. Not right away, anyway! Sort through your emotions first. Grab a good friend and talk it out. Perhaps the concept of marriage is overwhelming you that you're beginning to lose perspective on why you want to marry your partner in the first place.

You could also be stressed from the wedding preparations. Planning a wedding is no joke! Maybe you're bordering on insanity with all the preps and just want to run away on your own. This can cause cold feet too. Take a break from all the planning. Take a vacation for a week from wedding planning. Maybe all you need is a refresher.

There may be other factors though that can cause doubts before your wedding: discovering your partner is abusive, finding out about infidelity, a difference in opinion about children and values, pushing through with the wedding so you won't hurt your partner's feelings. These may be more serious doubts that would require you to examine your relationship more.

Be tactful when you bring this up with your partner. Finding out that your groom or bride suddenly has doubts towards you can be very hurtful, so manage this well. It is best that you two work it out together.

Good luck!

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Posted By: Toni Girl - Category: For the Big Day, For the Marriage

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Strange how we fit each other

June 16th 2010 07:00

This song is PERFECT for couples. Consider it as a first dance for your wedding day, when walking down the aisle, background music to your wedding video. The lyrics are just so intimate and beautiful. It's called "Eric's Song" and it's by Vienna Teng.

"Eric's Song"

Strange how you know inside me
I measure the time and I stand amazed
Strange how I know inside you
My hand is outstretched toward the damp of the haze

And of course I forgive
I've seen how you live
Like a phoenix you rise from the ashes
You pick up the pieces
And the ghosts in the attic
They never quite leave
And of course I forgive
You've seen how I live
I've got darkness and fears to appease
My voices and analogies
Ambitions like ribbons
Worn bright on my sleeve

Strange how we know each other

Strange how I fit into you
There's a distance erased with the greatest of ease
Strange how you fit into me
A gentle warmth filling the deepest of needs

And with each passing day
The stories we say
Draw us tighter into our addiction
Confirm our conviction
That some kind of miracle
Passed on our heads
And how I am sure
Like never before
Of my reasons for defying reason
Embracing the seasons
We dance through the colors
Both followed and led

Strange how we fit each other

Strange how certain the journey
Time unfolds the petals
For our eyes to see
Strange how this journey's hurting
In ways we accept as part of fate's decree

So we just hold on fast
Acknowledge the past
As lessons exquisitely crafted
Painstakingly drafted
To carve us as instruments
That play the music of life
For we don't realize
Our faith in the prize
Unless it's been somehow elusive
How swiftly we choose it
The sacred simplicity
Of you at my side

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Posted By: Toni Girl - Category: For the Big Day, For the Marriage

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Wedding Registry for Wishes

January 1st 2010 02:44

What do you think of this -- instead of having a blender, a toaster, a couple of towels and similar things listed on your wedding registry, you list down wishes instead? For example, "our dream living room," "our dream piano," "the gift of date nights."

On a sample wedding registry, one couple lists "good health" as a wedding wish, which translates to the requesting for the gift of medical insurance. Each wish has an equivalent amount -- this good health wish equates to medical insurance of $1400, but guests can contribute to the gift in denominations of $100.

In a nutshell, you're collecting funds to make your wishes come true. Instead of guests giving ou a blender you probably won't use anyway, they're giving you money to help make a dream of yours come true. It's that simple, that practical and that helpful.

It's reframing wedding gift registry. Honestly, I love the idea. I wish I had done something like this for my wedding.

It helps put the presents you request for in perspective. Couples share their wishes and dreams with their guests, so the purpose of the items are more understandable. More insightful as well.

If I could do my wedding gift registry all over again, I'd probably register for this:
A good home to come home to -- help contribute to the downpayment of our condominium
A cozy bedroom to rest in after a long day at work-- investing in a good bed, solid mattress and lovely linens, lovely lighting too
A family fund (I'm borrowing this from an item of a sample registry) -- To help provide for our family's future

The site is called "Upon Our Star" -- here's the link: http://www.uponourstar.com

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Posted By: Toni Girl - Category: For the Big Day, For the Marriage

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Grow old along with me

November 4th 2009 09:22

“Grow old along with me, the best is yet to be.”
- Robert Browning

Image by www.LizzieVPhotography.com

A beautiful, timeless quote perfect for your wedding. It would be heartwarming to use it in your wedding vows, or as part of your speech, or as a quote on your invitation.

It could even make a wedding proposal even more romantic.

Also, it's a perfect reminder of togetherness once you're married. You are to grow old with your partner, and there is a lot to look forward to together. Things will only get better with time as long as you never stop holding hands with each other.

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Posted By: Toni Girl - Category: For the Big Day, For the Marriage

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And everyday you will know

June 25th 2009 03:08

Thinking of a wedding gift for your bride- or groom-to-be? This Antique Wooden Sign by Rebecca Puig would be a simple and sweet idea.

(via swissmiss)

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Posted By: Toni Girl - Category: For the Big Day, For the Marriage

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Illuminata Wedding Quote

April 17th 2009 01:44

From this day forward,
You shall not walk alone.
My heart will be your shelter,
And my arms will be your home.

--from "Illuminata" (1994), Marianne Williamson

Image by: Aeioux

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Posted By: Toni Girl - Category: For the Big Day, For the Marriage

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A Wedding Story on MadTV

February 26th 2009 06:44

Typical scenario when the bride and groom don't see eye to eye. Funny sketch from MadTV's Crista Flanagan and Michael McDonald.

3:07... uh-oh!

And yeah, enjoy the wedding preps as much as you can... otherwise they CAN come back and haunt you.

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Posted By: Toni Girl - Category: For the Big Day, For the Marriage

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Would you do your wedding all over again?

December 2nd 2008 10:51

THERE will always be something you'd want to have changed during your wedding. Not all wedding days are perfect, but all brides want their weddings to be so!

Fellow blogger Ibyang shares a story on a recent talk she had with her husband about this:

After seeing those three newlywed couples, I asked the Husband that if we'd ever have the chance to do it (prepare for a wedding and get married) again, would we ever do it??? We paused for a moment and we both answered, "No". And then we laughed. [Read more]

What about you? Would you want to get a second chance to re-do your wedding?

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Posted By: Toni Girl - Category: For the Big Day, For the Marriage

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Wedding movie scene: The Graduate

October 1st 2008 09:37

This is one of the most classic movie scenes -- the final scene in "The Graduate."

How would you prevent such a thing from happening at your wedding?
1. Choose the right person to marry.
2. Choose the right person to marry.
3. Choose the right person to marry.

Clear enough?

If you're at the altar and that guy- or girl-who got away starts banging on those church windows, well, just follow your heart. Better remember though that drama like this is best saved for the movies!