Do you want to have children?
March 27th 2008 11:29
One of the things you and your partner have to discuss before getting married is children. While having children is a huge joy and ideal to some couples, it is also a big responsibility. Some couples prefer to wait a couple of years before bringing kids into a marriage, others want to try for a baby right away.
It would help if you and your partner have a clear understanding on this topic. Maybe these 10 questions can help you. You can answer the questions separately and then compare notes afterwards.
1. Do you want to have children? How many children do you want to have?
2. How soon in the marriage do you want to have children?
3. Are you physically capable of having children? If one of you (or both of you) cannot physically have children, what options would you explore? (Surrogate, adoption, not having kids at all, etc.)
4. If one of you does not want to have children, but the other desires to have children, how do you plan to manage your options?
5. If neither of you wants to have children, what options would you consider so as not to have kids? In the event that you do become pregnant, how do you plan to manage this?
6. How would you manage your jobs when a child comes your way? Will both of you continue working, or will one be a stay-at-home parent?
7. What childhood experiences do you want to carry on or avoid when you raise your own children?
8. What parenting styles do you plan to take?
9. If you agree on having children, how will you manage your finances when your children arrive? Do you plan to put up a separate account for your child? Will you start a college savings plan?
10. If you agree on having children, do you have health insurance? Will it cover yourself and the family you are about to build?
Remember, you owe each other your honesty. The more sincere the answers, the more it will benefit your relationship. Good luck!
It would help if you and your partner have a clear understanding on this topic. Maybe these 10 questions can help you. You can answer the questions separately and then compare notes afterwards.
1. Do you want to have children? How many children do you want to have?
2. How soon in the marriage do you want to have children?
3. Are you physically capable of having children? If one of you (or both of you) cannot physically have children, what options would you explore? (Surrogate, adoption, not having kids at all, etc.)
4. If one of you does not want to have children, but the other desires to have children, how do you plan to manage your options?
5. If neither of you wants to have children, what options would you consider so as not to have kids? In the event that you do become pregnant, how do you plan to manage this?
6. How would you manage your jobs when a child comes your way? Will both of you continue working, or will one be a stay-at-home parent?
7. What childhood experiences do you want to carry on or avoid when you raise your own children?
8. What parenting styles do you plan to take?
9. If you agree on having children, how will you manage your finances when your children arrive? Do you plan to put up a separate account for your child? Will you start a college savings plan?
10. If you agree on having children, do you have health insurance? Will it cover yourself and the family you are about to build?
Remember, you owe each other your honesty. The more sincere the answers, the more it will benefit your relationship. Good luck!
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